Dua for Finding a Good Spouse
Question: Shaykh, please provide me with a dua to help me find the spouse that I desire.
Remember, the spouse that you should desire would be a religious and pious spouse which would lead you closer to Allah. Be careful not to be deceived by looks or money – because these qualities will normalize, whereas the love provided through piety will continue to grow.
There is a supplication that has been recorded by Imam Ali (a). “Whichever one of you who wants to get married should first perform a two-rakat prayer, in every rakat, Surah Fatihah and Surah Ya-Sin must be recited, then after the prayer ends and one praises Allah, the following should be said:
اللَّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِی زَوْجَةً وَدُوداً وَلُوداً شَکُوراً غَیُوراً إِنْ أَحْسَنْتُ شَکَرَتْ وَ إِنْ أَسَأْتُ غَفَرَتْ وَ إِنْ ذَکَرْتُ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى أَعَانَتْ وَ إِنْ نَسِیتُ ذَکَّرَتْ وَ إِنْ خَرَجْتُ مِنْ عِنْدِهَا حَفِظَتْ وَ إِنْ دَخَلْتُ عَلَیْهَا سُرَّتْ وَ إِنْ أَمَرْتُهَا أَطَاعَتْنِی وَ إِنْ أَقْسَمْتُ عَلَیْهَا أَبَرَّتْ قَسَمِی وَ إِنْ غَضِبْتُ عَلَیْهَا أَرْضَتْنِی یَا ذَا الْجَلَالِ وَ الْإِکْرَامِ هَبْ لِی ذَلِکَ فَإِنَّمَا أَسْأَلُکَه و لا آخِذ اِلاّ ما مَنَنْتَ و اَعْطَیْتَ
O’ Lord, give me a nice, child-bearing, thankful, bā-ghayrat spouse; a spouse that would be thankful if I treat him/her good and would forgive me if I treat him/her bad; a spouse that would help me if I remember Allah and would remind me of Allah if I forget him; a spouse that would protect me if I leave his/her presence and would make me happy if I enter his/her presence; a spouse that would obey me if I ordered him/her to do something and would take my vows seriously if I make one against him/her; a spouse that would calm me down if I get angry. O’ Lord of loft and honor, give me such a spouse. I have asked for him/her from you and nothing would come to me unless you give it to me.
In addition to this, there has been some suggestions to perform tawassul to Sayyidah Zahra (a) as well.