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Dua for Finding a Good Spouse

Posted on Feb 7, 2016 by in Featured, Question and Answer, Society | 44 comments

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Question: Shaykh, please provide me with a dua to help me find the spouse that I desire.

Answer:

Remember, the spouse that you should desire would be a religious and pious spouse which would lead you closer to Allah. Be careful not to be deceived by looks or money – because these qualities will normalize, whereas the love provided through piety will continue to grow.

There is a supplication that has been recorded by Imam Ali (a). “Whichever one of you who wants to get married should first perform a two-rakat prayer, in every rakat, Surah Fatihah and Surah Ya-Sin must be recited, then after the prayer ends and  one praises Allah, the following should be said:

اللَّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِی زَوْجَةً وَدُوداً وَلُوداً شَکُوراً غَیُوراً إِنْ أَحْسَنْتُ شَکَرَتْ وَ إِنْ أَسَأْتُ غَفَرَتْ وَ إِنْ ذَکَرْتُ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى أَعَانَتْ وَ إِنْ نَسِیتُ ذَکَّرَتْ وَ إِنْ خَرَجْتُ مِنْ عِنْدِهَا حَفِظَتْ وَ إِنْ دَخَلْتُ عَلَیْهَا سُرَّتْ وَ إِنْ أَمَرْتُهَا أَطَاعَتْنِی وَ إِنْ أَقْسَمْتُ عَلَیْهَا أَبَرَّتْ قَسَمِی وَ إِنْ غَضِبْتُ عَلَیْهَا أَرْضَتْنِی یَا ذَا الْجَلَالِ وَ الْإِکْرَامِ هَبْ لِی ذَلِکَ فَإِنَّمَا أَسْأَلُکَه و لا آخِذ اِلاّ ما مَنَنْتَ و اَعْطَیْتَ

O’ Lord, give me a nice, child-bearing, thankful, bā-ghayrat spouse; a spouse that would be thankful if I treat him/her good and would forgive me if I treat him/her bad; a spouse that would help me if I remember Allah and would remind me of Allah if I forget him; a spouse that would protect me if I leave his/her presence and would make me happy if I enter his/her presence; a spouse that would obey me if I ordered him/her to do something and would take my vows seriously if I make one against him/her; a spouse that would calm me down if I get angry. O’ Lord of loft and honor, give me such a spouse. I have asked for him/her from you and nothing would come to me unless you give it to me.

In addition to this, there has been some suggestions to perform tawassul to Sayyidah Zahra (a) as well.

44 Comments

  1. Comment
    sallam alaikum,pls when is the best time to perform this prayer

    • Salaams, since this prayer does not have a specific time it could be performed at any time. But, that being said, one should use the opportunities available to him, such as performing it in a masjid, in a shrine of the Ahl al-Bayt (a), or in Mecca. Also, on prime dates such as Laylatul-Qadr, in the month of Ramadan, on the night of Friday (Thursday night), etc.

    • Salaam sheikh

      I was born in a christian family and now allah ta’ala open me eyes to know this beautifull kalima”laa ilaha ilalla muhammadur rasoululah”and today I am happy and have peace in my life.I am muslim for 2 years now.I need to stay away from zina.please give me a specific dua for me to find out a wife of my choice in shaa allah.+27743387721

  2. Salam Alaikun pls can you help some of us with Transliteration of d dua? May Allah reward you

    • Salaams, yes of course.

      Allahumar-zuqni zawjatan wadudan shakuran ghayuran in ahsantu shakarat wa in asa’tu ghafarat wa in dhakartullaha ta’ala a’anat wa in nasaytu dhakarat wa in kharajtu min ‘indaha hafzhat wa in dakhaltu ‘alayha surrat wa in amartuha ata’atni wa in aqsamtu ‘alayha abarrat qasami wa in ghadibtu ‘alayha ardatni ya dhal-jalali wal-ikram hab li dhalika fa-innama as’alukah wa la akhidh ila ma mananta wa atayat

      Insha’Allah this helps.

  3. Ma sha Allah But how frequent can i b doing it. . Also i would like to request for d dua to be doing for certainty that you are with d right woman.

    • Salaams, as much as you like, the more the better.

  4. Is it advisable to just recite the due after every salat?

  5. Is it alright if I recite this prayer after each salat?

    • Salaams, yes the more the better.

      • Is this for men only? or can women recite this too? or should I change “زوجة” to “الزوج” ?

        • Yes, women can recite it but must change to the feminine version.

          • can you kindly give me the feminine version? I am not a native arabic speaker. thanks, and JazakAllah.

        • Salams, pls give me the female version of this dua.pls

  6. I dont know Surah yasin by heart, is it ok if i recite it during the prayer while reading it from quran?

    • Yes.

  7. pls there a two gugs who whats to marrie me.now am cofusse so pls help me.what should i do to choice one among them

    • Salaams, whichever one is more pious and you have a stronger connection to.

      • pls the one that i have stronger connection with is a christain.

        • It is impermissible to marry a non-Muslim.

          • Salam aleikum, after this dua’a how can one identify her if she comes around. Will it be that she’d find me or vice versa. Would there be any sign to know if she’s the true one? I have a problem, the one I love won’t luv me but the ones I don’t want will always want me even though I don’t have any feelings for her. How can I solve this? Pls help.

          • You must open your mind and your heart. If you are in love with someone who will not marry you it is time to move on and allow a chance for another sister to fill your heart. Have an open mind and if a sister meets the criteria for marriage move forward insha’Allah.

  8. Asalamualaikum, I have a brother in Islam that love me so much and can do anything to make me happy but i dont love him but am praying to even like but is not just happening. And i have another brother in Islam that i just met he said he loves me and i like him, so i dnt no what to do since the 1st one love me? And have been praying for Allah guide. Please advice me. Ma’salam

    • It seems as if you are having compatibility issues. If you have to pray to even like him I’d move on.

      • Assalamualaikum. I browsed and saw this dua for marriage. Rabbi Inne Lemma Anzalta Ellaya Min Khairin Faqir. I recite this 33 times after every namaz. And also many told me to read “Ya Lateefo” 101 times after Fajr Namaz.

        Please help me. The above said Dua by you is really nice alhamdullialah. Am 27yr old female from India. I have just started being religious to Allah, very closer to Allah. But I feel myself Am still not prepared to become full complete pious Muslimah. I know it will take time and one day I want to be complete pious Muslimah.

        I need very pious husband. Can you please send English transliteration for females please. For Allah sake.

        • Salaams, insha’Allah you will be guided along the path towards spiritual success and finding a pious husband. Just use the female pronouns of the dua.

    • One of my great saints keep saying that the very first thing which comes to your mind (in which you are confuse) is from the Almighty ALLAAH!!
      Deeds are [a result] only of the intentions [of the actor], and an individual is [rewarded] only according to that which he intends!
      - My Prophet PBUH
      Sahih Bukhari

  9. I am 19. But I want to marry at the age of 24 or 25 . So should I start a pray for a good husband?

    • Salaams, when you are actively seeking one pray.

  10. Asc.Am 19 years old and I need to marry early as as the prophet pbuh said shabab to marry so my question is wht is the signs show tht the dua has been axcepted

    • When you get married insha’Allah

  11. AsalaamOAlkuim,
    I am deaf and 32 years old woman. I am not expert in Islam. All my same age cousins are married and happily life. My heart is now dark. I am fed of this life. I always think Why Allah gives me a deaf. I am seeking for husband. I don’t know which dua is for finding husband. Please advice me

    • Salam sister,
      Allah (Swt) does not oppress the creation, rather we were non-existent and he gave us this life out of his mercy. To test us for a small period of time then grant us eternal bliss in the heavens. I myself am not perfect physically, but Al-Hamdhulla, I am blessed much more than others just as you are. Allah is the most merciful, just read the pages of the Quran and see what is written within them. Take example from the Holy Ahlulbayt and be patient, for God has promised that after hardship comes ease. So attach your heart to Allah and see how the avenues of love will pour down onto you from every direction. Through the Quran and Ahlulbayt sister, you will find what you seek.

  12. Assalamu Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu please make sincere day for my husband my family and I. We are going through severe hardship involving the court finances and health. We are being severely tested. I feel as if my whole life has been a trial I hurt so much. May Allah answer your prayers for us and for all ummah amend.

  13. Am also in need of Good wife but I come across this yah wadud do it as mush as you can may almighty Allah grand us our heart desire

  14. Hi all my friends are married or have gotten engaged. I’m 24 and still single you mentioned to recite yasin what if you do not know how to recite it is there another Surah like alfalaq or ??

    • It would be a great reason to learn to read Arabic!

  15. Thank you ;
    Sir may I add ; I am a divorced women. Was in a marriage of 3 years which I spend mostly away from my husband because I was without a visa for 17 months initially & the day I did and join him ; we were in the same home for 14 months in uk but he didn’t share a single meal with me and ALLAH ; knows we were in different rooms and it was the hardest part.

  16. salam
    im 35 year .im not marred yet .can u tell me some duaa .i get marred soon. plz thanks

  17. Comment Salam Alaikum sir, am 21,and am seeking Allah’s guidance for whom to marry..Can i marry a person that i do not love but loves me?

    • Salaams, probably not the best idea.

  18. jazakallahu bil jannah ya Shaikh

  19. Thank u so much for that wonderful dua

  20. Assalamu Alaykum brother,
    It has been said thst Allah created all things in pairs. Which Dua is best or most effacious for finding the spouse tgat Allah has created for me. I have been married before but my husband was extremely physically and psycologically abusive.

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