Does Islam Permit Sex Toys?
Question: Can a married couple use sex toys to spice up their love life?
Islam gives immense importance to foreplay and sexually satisfying one’s spouse. There are plenty of traditions which clearly reiterate this principle. For instance, Imam Ali (a) said: “When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled).”
Therefore, various forms of foreplay have been directly mentioned by the Imams, such as kissing, oral stimulation, caressing breasts, and so forth. For more information refer to the article: Lets talk about sex…in Islam.
But, not all types of foreplay are permissible. One of the prohibited types of foreplay is stimulating one’s sexual organs by a foreign object. This is supported by the following tradition related by Ubaydallah bin Zurarah:
He said that he had an old neighbour who owned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him to place his fingers in her vagina as she liked it.
The old man complied with her wishes even though he did not like this idea. So he requested ‘Ubaydullah to ask Imam ‘ Ali Rida (a) about it. When ‘Ubaydullah asked the Imam about it, the Imam said, “There is no problem as long as he uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not use any thing other than his body on her.”
Therefore, Sayyid Sistani states that it is impermissible to use any foreign objects to stimulate a husband or wife’s sexual organs.
But, this doesn’t rule out the use of oils and massage tools that would enhance the sexual experience without directly stimulating the sexual organs.